Being the Real or Absolute “You”

Q. What do you mean by being the real or absolute “me”? Aren’t we all this already?

A. Yes, of course you are the real or absolute you. You are alive, and are there to observe all else, your life is a space through which all else has occurred. That is the absolute you, the real you I speak of.  By noticing it, seeing life and everything else from it’s vantage point, changes to your brain occur, and bliss develops.

Q. My guru says ask “who is being the absolute me.” Is this right?

A. As long as there is absorption in the relative this is needed, but more important is to practice as the “you” that is unmoved by the question. Once absorption in the relative “you” as the totality has gone, there is no need for this. The relative you and the absolute you, can co-exist; thus you can use the relative to be the bliss of the absolute should you wish.

Q. Can you please describe being the absolute “you” the best you can?

A. It’s akin to a very natural dual focus.  The relative — what you think, feel, perceive and experience — all co-exist alongside/within something else. So, most people are busy being them — their thoughts, emotions, perceptions, reactions and so on. I am being those as well as being the space within which they occur at the very same time. The result is over time, bliss.

Q. Can I be as I wish when being the bliss of the absolute “me”?

A. You can indeed – arrogant, fierce, aggressive, loving, kind and nice. Finding and experiencing the absolute “you” has nothing to do with how to act, what you say, or what you think. It requires some understanding then practice.

It is the deepest most unconditional love there is beyond what we would call love and closer to what we would call freedom with rules.

Practice experiencing the bliss of the absolute “you” and doing as you wish. You’ll see the relative, what you say, do, think and feel are totally separate from the bliss of the absolute “you” but dependent on it. That absolute “you” is so unconditional and such a deep blissful love that it depends on nothing.

Remember, of course, you are however always subject to the doctrine of consequences.

Have a mess around and you’ll see how you act in the relative soon draws consequences from those around you, 99.999% are absorbed in/as the relative. It’s very easy to give people ideas about you —  images and perceptions — to shape their reactions.
In the end, use the content of the space you find, for peace.

Q. What’s the most important part of being the absolute “me”?

A. It’s strength with loving purpose. An ignorant person has strength in bucket loads. An ignorant person, acts without conscience, without fear, and without care for others  always for their own ends. Such strength will easily overcome a far wiser person that is at the whim of the relative, or that which is content within the container of the absolute you.

Ultimately, nothing can overcome the well trained person, they are not subject to absorption in the weakness, the temporary, of the relative but in the space in which it occurs. This is their true identity, as is the bliss that results. They know and experience the bliss that is at the centre of all people able to be achieved by all; they know that all are that same thing no matter what appears to be in the relative. They will stand up for the good treatment of themselves and others without transgression.

Q. How do you know if someone experiences the bliss of the absolute?

A. They may seem different but it’s impossible to know. They could be sat meditating, walking, jogging, boxing, having an argument, being kind, being arrogant, being angry, being chatty or being quiet. They may mature or immature, they may be likeable or dislikeable. All these things are relative; they are observable; they are not the absolute, which is there no matter what the relative does and can be identified and experienced or not.

Q. Surely people that experience the bliss of the absolute within will be more loving?

A. They will certainly feel something far greater then love. On the whole yes, but it is only because you confuse the relative with the absolute that you have this notion. There is no prescribed way for people to act that experience the bliss  demonstrated by the alpha/theta brain state. Simply, they experience the bliss of what is there no matter how they act, what they say, and what they think.

Q. Isn’t experiencing bliss all the time boring?

A. Not at all. All the relative still goes on; you still have uniqueness, happenings, thoughts and emotions. Simply the bliss always remains always the same, but somehow always different. Just like sugar never tires of its sweetness so, too, will you never tire of bliss.

My method – Learn to achieve Bliss

No matter what you think, feel, or are doing right now, it is happening within an ever-present space or container – naturally.
Your thoughts, feelings, reactions, different states, perceptions and memories have always moved through this space. You’ve always been aware of them. That’s been the case all your life. It’s simply a case that you’ve not often see things from that ever present vantage point. So, I am not teaching anything new here. Simply, my method involves learning to notice that naturally occurring observing space, not simply that which is observable.

What can make this difficult is that we can get absorbed in the observable content our experience, and feel like that’s all there is.
Yet even then, we are there to observe that itself, to allow it, as it unfolds within that space I speak of.

Everything we can think, feel, perceive and do passes through that observing space all of its own accord. If we focus more and more as that space, as that container, we take our brain more and more into the alpha and theta brainwave states. This has the effect of increasing the release of dopamine and serotonin, which enhance our feelings of relaxation, focus, and clarity.

No matter what you think, feel, or are doing right now, it happens within a naturally occurring space.

And, there’s little more to it than that. It’s learning a dual focus. Just like you can see and hear at the same time, you can learn to be not simply to be that which is temporary and observable but that which is permanent and free-standing at the very same time.

A practical, fact-based method

I believe in only one thing – fact. When I work, I only deal with facts. I don’t really deal in beliefs, stories, or complexities, and I try and stay clear of interpretations as much as I can. Sure I have mine and you’ll have yours, but they’re very personal and can be very subjective

My interpretations have certainly changed in me enough times for me not to be too precious of them.
If I can say something to you, and there is any room for you to say “prove that,” then it is not a fact I’ll work with, but rather something that comes down to interpretation.

I base my work around five facts:

The first fact is that there is a naturally free container, space or awareness through which all experiences move. No matter how crazy you think I am right now, or how much you are buying into what I say, your reactions move in and out of that space or awareness, that’s a fact. That space/or ability to observe your mind is what I call “the real you.” It is the primary you, the absolute you, the “you” that does not change. Call it what you like; this is the absolute, ever present factor in your life because it’s always there.

The second fact is to practice being/tuning into/noticing that space through which all else comes, creates bliss as evidenced by the scans of my brain you can see here..

The third fact is you likely experience some sub-optimum aspects of human experience as detailed in the symptoms page.
The fourth fact is that those symptoms must occur within that constant space/container/awareness. All of them are relative to the absolute you, that which naturally allows/observes all else.

The fifth fact is that no amount of explanations or understanding, can resolve these relative symptoms alone. You can only experience these symptoms, or not. You can only experience the deep bliss by practicing being in command of what is aware or allows them to be. Just like love, just because one does not experience bliss (or whatever name you choose to give it) does not mean it does not exist.