Problems Practising Being the Real You

Q. I am busy and don’t really get a lot of time. How is it best to practice?

A. Well, you can practice at anytime… no matter what you do… you are always there! There is  an absolute, constant “you” that is aware, to allow the experience of your life to be. Strive to be that you. Be absorbed in the absolute as your real identity over the merely relative. Admittedly, it can be hard work when a lot of things are vying for your attention, but no matter what happens, something within allows all that is relative to occur and is there as it occurs. Make sure you make best of the moments when alone no matter how brief they are and practice being the non-changing “you” that observes/allows your mind to simply be as it is.

Q. It’s really hard. I keep having to remember to be that which is aware of all else and then I keep forgetting! What should I do?

A. Yet, you are aware of that, too, is that not true? At first, you will forget because you have to make a conscious effort to be the you which does not change. You’ve been absorbed in the relative for a long, long time, so changing is just a habit! After a while, however, your practice starts to enter your sub-conscious and will become more and more natural.
Remember the greatest of all achievements take the hardest work of all.

Q. I seem to do well with my practice. I experience some bliss, but then I get a tricky situation that makes it all tumble down again. What do you advise?

A. This is just a matter of practice. No matter what comes into consciousness and no matter how big the curveball it throws to the relative experience of “me,” in the end, it is never greater than the consciousness – the “you” that allows it to be or is aware of mindful of it. So focus on being that.

This experience is the greatest thing in the world; it does not come easy, and no one can do your hard work for you.

Q. I tasted bliss once, and now I want it back. What should I do?

A. The process is one that relies on neurochemistry; you can’t just switch it back on. It is either there or not. So, the key is to do what works when it is not there. Keep dedicated and practice hard. So few advocate practice, but keep pressing understanding. This is not really a matter of deep understanding but of deep practice. When there is no bliss of the absolute, all you can do it alternate between being the ever present “you” the observer/allower of all your thoughts, reactions, and emotions… then the bliss will come back. Remember, your brain can’t just drop all its old habits and patterns – think how useless it would be! You will likely feel uneasy, desperate, and deflated, and this is as it must be… the absolute “you” is that which is aware of that and what allows it to be.

Q. Even though I am following your method, I seem to have lots of conflicts and arguments. How do I avoid these?

A. Remember you are an object in others consciousness. So, for now, it’s best to remember this: be aware of your reactions and remember treatment of yourself, reflects in your relationships with others. Until you are purely rested in bliss, you will create turmoil in situations due to your reactions to the relative appear in your consciousness – such as how you view people, how you view events. These are always relative truth; they are not the truth of the “you” that is absolute and mindful of them all.

Q. It’s very hard to realise bliss with so many bad people around me. I am surrounded by judgmental, spiteful, and often loveless people. I can’t help but notice how people don’t seem to care about each other. You know they put each other down, bitch about them, and I know sometimes do the same towards me. What should I do?

A. I could give you a deep answer but I won’t. Simply be aware of this state of discomfort, and in time it will heal. Peace within flows outwards. Maybe change the people you associate with!

Q. I have realised bliss, but suffering comes back. How would you best advise?

A. Do what works in the moment. One time it might be witnessing, or allowing, the other it might not be making any effort at all. Your question is a little like asking me, what paint shall I use to create the best painting? It depends on what you are painting, and even then, different objects require different shades and colours at different times. So, take my tool box, develop your own, too, and do what works in any given moment to experience bliss more and more.

Q. I have three states. One is when I feel no bliss, the second is when I am in witnessing/deep seeing/allowing and the bliss, and the final one is where everything is natural and bliss is always there. How do I move to the more natural one more often?

A. Okay, what you are saying here is you experience being the totally relative, then the relative witnessing/allowing the absolute, and then the absolute with the relative doing its own thing without impeding the experience of the absolute.
So, when bliss is not there  (total relative), be the you that  is unchanging and there instead of bliss. When you are the witness/allower witnessing/allowing the bliss (relative allowing absolute), focus as being the bliss rather than the witness. When the natural state of bliss is there, carry on as is, being that.

Q. Even though the bliss of the absolute “me” can be with me for days it always fades and then I suffer. What can I do?

A. Do what works to go back to the pure bliss of the absolute you/consciousness. Understand that it is only arising, reporting to the “real you” and stay as that. It will fade into the bliss soon enough.

Q. I am fine on my own and find it easy to realise bliss but with others I become nervous and agitated. What does this mean?

A. This is simply a lack of practice. A deepening of the state is required to stay as the allower of the relativity of the mind, which otherwise absorbs itself, in itself. You are always there to know all this and be mindful of it! All one can do is stay as that “you” that  allows all this to unfold — that from which all else comes, is  of all these things, and practice.

Q. When I am not absorbed in bliss, I suffer. Why?

A. You are both — the absolute and the relative. You suffer because you then reject your suffering. Thus, you reject part of the reality, and thus the reality is you suffer. Accept the reality and move to what is ever present, absolute even when the suffering of the relative absorbed in itself arises Then the bliss of consciousness/the aware/absolute you returns. It’s a practice; in the end, you are changing your brain state, and you have to do that with the brain state you have, inching forwards.