Q. What is meant by the absolute “you” and the relative “you”?
A. It’s just a term, it’s nothing to get too serious or clingy about! Absolute means something that is not relative to anything else. It is the you that is unchanged by anything — it is unobservable, always there from the day you were born. You may want to think of it as the life force, the energy, which allows all to be within, or simply as the act of using the brain/mind to observe itself. It really doesn’t matter – it’s there right now and accessible right away.
There is nothing really personal about it; life isn’t unique to you after all. It is beyond real explanation in the relative — the best one can perhaps say, in terms of your experience, is it is that which allows or observes all that it is relative or is in there in spite of it. It is there, irrespective of and beyond even the concept of the absolute “you” because you were alive before you heard of the concept! It is there whether you are looking for it or not. It is there naturally observing your experience now. It exists, it is, and it is existence.
Practising being that which observes the mind will take the brain to a state of pure bliss evidenced by changes in brainwaves. Anyone has the potential to experience it because everyone is alive and able to practice observing the mind so it becomes natural. It is a love beyond love, always there, and never conditional. There’s no need to get caught up in all these words, or do if you like, still the absolute “you” remains unmoved, there to observe all else.
As soon as you really know yourself, you know all others. One may, or perhaps should, choose to move towards the highest creations that of peace, unity, and kindness. This choice is not taken from a polarised view point as it where but simply because these things are “better” than their opposites, which are in reality are just a lack of peace, unity, and kindness.
When you experience the bliss of the absolute “you” no matter what occurs in the realm of the relative, both within and outside, the bliss of the absolute remains.
Just like you can hear two songs at the same time or see and hear at once, so, too, with practice can you experience the bliss of the absolute you (the non observable/observer) and the uniqueness of all that is relative to it, (the observable) such as thoughts and emotions, at the very same time.
When I say things that are relative to the absolute you, I mean all others things that are observable, dependent or secondary to it. The relative is really anything I can say here so all my words in that way have already failed to define the absolute you! Such a definition is really within you. The relative is all thoughts, emotions, perceptions, reactions and so on — in other words, all things that are dependent on being alive, or are observable by you. Most people experience those relative factors as their entire reality rather than also experiencing that which allows those factors to be, the absolute them or real them which is always there, unchanged and unmoved by them all. It’s the same unchanging thing that was there when you began reading this question and is still there now. In itself is the unobservable observer.
Q. Is the absolute “me” a free standing entity just in me?
A. Of course not. As well as the billions of cells within you working to keep you alive, it is sustained by all things around it, air, food, water and the sun — that which we collectively term life. Life is in everything that is alive, one interrelated whole that is interconnected, the same or similar thing, divided amongst the many. There is clear interrelation, but there is also a clear separation. Just because one thing dies does not mean another necessarily does. So, the absolute “you” is not really personal to you at all; you could call it the absolute us.
Q. If I all I need to do is experience the absolute “me,” something which is not been dependent on anything else, surely I can do that right now?
A. No, not at all. That’s a common but faulty teaching. Identifying the absolute “you” that remains unmoved and unchanged due to the relative is only the beginning step, and you can begin now, but in truth, you have to go further to cultivate the changes evidenced by your brain. Constant application is required. This practice changes your brainwaves and neurochemicals. Over time, there is no need to practice because the blissful state becomes fully natural and no longer a state but a way of being.