Q. I have many of the symptoms you speak of. How will the method of “being the real me” help me?
A. It will end or at least deeply alleviate the suffering you get from these symptoms. Once well practiced, though, the symptoms may still occur. They will do so in the background of bliss and will not cause you to suffer because they are relative to that bliss.
Q. Why must I suffer?
A. It’s a brain state that needs to be moved away from. The act of observing your suffering, letting it wash in and out, changes your brain and brainwaves, changing the neurochemicals that are released.
Every bit of suffering is there to allow healing to be born out of it. See suffering as the same as healing, and you are well on the way to real experiencing healing, the bliss of the absolute you. Without the suffering, the free will to find real peace, the bliss within, the most pleasurable thing there is, could not exist. Each bit of suffering is pushing you towards your ultimate expression of peace. There’s no need to see it as personal; it was never personal.
Q. I am a terrible person. Is this experience of bliss still open to me?
A. There’s no such thing as a bad or terrible person, just a bad or terrible brain. You may be a terrible person in the relative — what you have done, how you act, your focus, your habits, but you have the potential for perfection at your core as does everyone else. The ability to observe the mind and create bliss, is within everyone. So be that. Be that which is there to allow you to be a terrible person to have that notion and all others that which is there always unchanging, observing consciously or subconsciously
Q. Will bliss make me a better person?
A. Yes it will. Just think of the difference between you in a good mood and a bad mood. This will be the best mood you have ever had, and if you practice right, it will become totally permanent.
Q. I keep trying to be non judgmental, kind, positive, not be insecure or needy, and so on, but I always fall back into these habits. What can I do?
A. If you seek peace, as long as you are absorbed in the relative as the total reality, you will suffer. Stay as that “you” that is unchanging despite these and practice hard. As absorption in them fades, and your brainwave frequency begins to change (for more on this see the science section of the website) you will experience bliss and all these things will simply be experienced as temporary, relative phenomenon. These are simply old patterns of conditioning from the brain/mind. They will lose all potency in time — they won’t matter — and the desire to change them and be perfect will fade away — there you shall find freedom.
Q. Are the use of fear and anger acceptable?
A. In this day and age, yes. If they are meant for the ultimate good of someone, why not? My advice is defend yourself and don’t transgress. Look after others, but look after yourself, too. If someone tries to abuse you, or steals from you, if there are no consequences, they shall do it again. No matter how forgiving and kind you are, many do not respect these traits, seeing them only as weakness. Defence of love and kindness of yourself, and others, is the only way and sometimes you have to be tough to enforce that. Protect it, but don’t infringe upon others once you have done enough, because therein lies the slippery slope.
Asides the experience of peace, their exists only one difference between a person experiencing bliss and a psychopath. A person in bliss will use fear and anger for the good of another as a defensive means to steer them on the straight and narrow path— not to harm them — because deep down they know the wonder and good that all people can cultivate. Their aim is the well being of that person. A psychopath, however, doesn’t care about the well being of others at all and is entirely self interested for their pleasure. They don’t care if they destroy others and therefore harm in the absolute sense exactly what they are.
In today’s heavily mind-absorbed world, people need polarised consequences of doing right and wrong or they cannot discern what is good for them, everything is suddenly acceptable.
So people should certainly fear doing wrong by you.
Q. Why does the serpent of fear, anger, and hate continue to raise its head within me despite so much practice?
A. It cannot be helped. The mind throws up these things over and over. Simply see them as motivation, pushing you to practice and move your mind to the bliss of the absolute “you” or consciousness. Be that and all that arises in the relative will cause you less and less strife.
Q. Why is there suffering in my life?
A. Consciousness is very cruel, but it is also infinitely benevolent. Without the suffering, there would be no motivation to escape it.
Q. What is the main cause of suffering?
A. Personal absorption in the observable is the main cause of suffering. You can be mindful of everything that goes on within no matter how unwanted it is.
Q. How do I obtain perfection?
A. Perfection cannot be obtained in the relative. To someone, somewhere you’ll always be too friendly, too unfriendly, too chatty, too quiet, too brash, too meek, too boring, too excitable or too meek. So only be true to yourself. You, your way of being, your views will never exactly match anyone else’s standards, the relative is a world of uniqueness — of difference — as it should be.
Perfection is, however, accessible within by finding the real you which is mindful or aware of all other occurrences and practising being that. Then you will know, experience, and be the perfection of bliss.
Q. In a few words, describe a “normal person” to me.
A. Many people don’t understand their ability to observe the mind and the changes this can make to their well being. They have minds that are absorbed in themselves, falsely thinking they are separate from their minds and are a separate controller of them. “I suffer badly and I don’t want to,” for example, is scientifically – “Brain suffers badly and brain doesn’t want to.” There is no separate I at all; it’s just one thing, a state, not a different person looking at their brain, but the brain referring to the brain! All their world comes from the brain, perceptions, thoughts, emotions, reactions and conditioning.
As long as that illusory pattern is not seen through, the person is a slave to their thoughts and emotions and all the absorption in them, believing all of them and that they are just that in their totality.